30 Apr The Path Less Traveled: Choose Your Next Adventure with Choice Compass
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for new and richer experience.”
Without adventure, our days drift into mediocrity, leaving us without that feeling of sheer joy, without mental and emotional stimulation, and without the things that make our hearts leap in our chests and our eyes shine and widen. What’s life for, if not for that feeling of exhilaration that comes as a kind of reward for accepting a challenge or taking a risk?
That which qualifies as “adventure” depends on the person who’s defining the experience. For some, the thrill of life exists in jumping out of planes and plummeting through the sky until they jerk their cords and launch their parachutes. For others, it means saying “yes” to a job offer, “yes” to dating again after heartbreak, or “yes” to adopting a pet.
These adventures — no matter what they consist of, and no matter how big or small — are often what cause us to feel that we are living life to its fullest. There is one catch: You must say “yes” to adventure. It’s surprisingly easy to live life without ups and downs, if you put your mind to it; all you have to do is play by the rules and say “yes” only to that which has a predictably good outcome. Travel to the same vacation spot year after year, dine at the same restaurant on Friday nights, and stick to your hobby collecting fall leaves that look like Lady Gaga. A life without much adventure is safe, but will likely leave you bored, stressed, and melancholy.
So, we say, choose adventure!
Why do we avoid saying “yes” to adventure? Fear. We fear the unknown — many of us will trade a boring known for an exciting unknown, any day. It’s easy to forget that this is a false choice: every day is an unknown. Every moment is an unknown. We pretend we know what will happen next, but that’s a fabrication, built on our desire to feel secure in our futures. How to kick the habit of fear? Remember that every moment is a choice. When you don’t choose, life chooses for you. What about choosing on purpose?
This is where Choice Compass can help out. Even if you don’t consciously know what kind of an adventure you need — big or small, long- or short-term, at home or abroad — your subconscious does. By using Choice Compass, you’ll be able to communicate with your somatic or body wisdom find out which adventure will bring you the most joy.
If you don’t know where to begin, consider using Choice Compass in these two capacities:
- Narrow it down to the kind of adventure you most need right now. On a piece of paper, do a little brainstorming. Write down any desire that comes to mind, even if you think it’s silly or you’re sure you’ll later dismiss it. You might write down such things as “playing wallyball,” “flying to Morocco,” “quitting smoking,” or “befriending a llama.” When you have a decent size list, see if you can group the items by categories. For instance, if you’ve come up with a number of health-related topics, name that category, “improving health”; or if you have a bunch of places listed, you might call that category “travel.” When you’ve finished categorizing these, open up Choice Compass and start plugging these in as opposing options. Each time, Choice Compass will select which of the two types of desires you prefer until you’ve narrowed them all down to one final answer. Then, you can repeat the process with the specific desires you’ve listed in that category, to see which one your heart feels would give you the most joy.
- Now, pursue your desire. A desire alone doesn’t constitute an adventure; it’s the journey that results from your pursuit that is the real adventure. So maybe you were already aware of the kind of adventure you’ve been pining for. The question then becomes, What’s stopping you? What are you afraid of? Whatever it is, keep it in mind as you plug the following into Choice Compass: Choice 1: (Going on the adventure of your choice); Choice 2: (Refraining from the adventure of your choice). You’ll discover what your heart is really telling you when you use the Choice Compass app.
Whenever we allow fear or uncertainty to dominate our decision-making processes, we cannot live life to its fullest. By using Choice Compass, you’ll be able to skip the deliberation that can result in inaction because of frustration and anxiety. The truth is that underneath it all, you already know what will make you happy or miserable — just listen to your heart.